MARRIAGE CAN BE A PIECE OF CAKE
Thank you for joining us again today. It is always beautiful to learn together at God’s feet. Thanks be to God, our Father for His love. May we continually walk in the consciousness of this love. We open our heart to learn from You, the All-Knowing God in Jesus’ unfailing name (Amen).
Genesis 5:1-2 talks about wholeness. There is something about the unity in marriage. Most relationships we have on earth is based on adding value, the only relationship legitimately based on covenant is marriage. The employer-employee relationship is based on how much value is delivered by both parties, once there is dissatisfaction in the value being added the employer can lay off the employee or the employee can decide to leave. Friendship relationships are based on value too.
Have you ever been asked why you love your partner? You will probably say things like “he’s intelligent”, “she is caring”, “he is loving”, but there have been times (not once, not twice, not thrice) that they haven’t demonstrated those attributes, yet we still love them. Why? It’s a covenant we both made in the presence of God.
If we have a picture of how God accepts us it will help us to understand how marriage works as well. He gave us His righteousness [For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him. 2 Cor 5:21] and that is all He sees. Can we base our relationship with our partner on the covenant of God’s Word? Our lead facilitator, Ibidun Olude, often use the analogy of a movie script to explain how each individual in marriage needs to view and fulfill their marital role without waiting for their spouse to act as they have presumed because God is the judge of a man/woman and not his/her Spouse.
One of the expressions of a person’s faith/belief in God is a man loving his wife, whether she loves back or not and a woman submitting to her husband whether he does her good or not. “Believing is casting the weight of our lives into a place of trust and abandonment in who God is” – Bill Johnson. We believe that this template of affectionate, unconditional love and submission is an expression of trust in God’s plan and strategy.
Asides raising godly kids, it is also important to get married because of what we can give and not what we can get. We must strive to give. So, we marry because we have received so much love from God and we are ready to be committed to lavishing it on someone else. Such questions as “what is it you have identified in your life that you need me to help you with?” should be a familiar discussion during courtship and even after marriage i.e after the wedding ceremony. Our motto ought to be “I am on a mission in my marriage”.
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